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Angel Eyes
And your class clown ways
I couldn't have dreamt you more perfect
So much love
And God's good grace
I couldn't have asked for anything better
My love for you....
There are no words
To express this awesome emotion
Just getting to know you
Makes me so lucky
My heart is over flowing
Never forget
The lessons taught
To prepare for being a man
Value each moment
And every beautiful day
That the Lord keeps blessing you with
Be happy with the love you gave
Your spirit and you brains
You'll never need for anything
If your faithful anf love with all of your heart
How did you and your number 2 become friends?
We had babies around the same time
How late did you stay up last night and why?
11:00.. I watched a movie and made a baby
What's the connection between you and the last person you texted?
I'm pretty sure it was my sister
Have you ever kissed someone whose name started with a J?
yes
Who was the last person you talked to on the phone?
Fawn
To send you a myspace message?
Erin
Whose bed did you sleep in last night?
mine
Ever kissed anyone of opposite sex?
yes
What are you doing tomorrow?
No plans
Do you like to cuddle?
yes
What are your plans for this weekend?
playing with Erin's kids.... and hanging out with my man
Whats your hair look like today?
probably the same way it looks everyday
Did you ever lose a friend?
yes
What are you doing right now?
this survey, and eating the turnovers I just made
Ever go camping?
yes... I love it
Are you someone's best friend?
yes
Do you have a dog?
no
Do you like birds?
sort of
Biggest annoyance in your life right now?
Noah following me around making stupid noises
Have you spoken to your mother today?
yes
What color is your hair?
Blonde and brown
When was the last time you talked to one of your siblings?
last night
Have you ever thought you liked someone, and then found out that you really didn't?
oh yes
Where were you an hour ago?
Making the kids breakfast and feeding Mylee hers
Do you have any tattoo/piercings?
yes both
Do you drink water?
yes
Do you fall for people easily?
yes
When is the next time you will see number 1 on your top friends?
In a few hours :)
What are you listening to right now?
SpongeBob Square pants
Is it easy for others to make you feel awkward?
not really
Are you too forgiving?
Definetly
Do you think someone is thinking about you right now?
Maybe
Do you care if people hate you for no reason?
I pretend I don't but it really does bother me... A little bit anyway
Did you have any unread text messages this morning when you woke up?
nope
Your ex REALLY needs you at 3am & you have a way to their house would you go?
I guess it depends on what he needed, but probably
When was the last time you wanted to punch someone in their face?
It happens daily
What was the last thing you cried about?
I snuck into each kids bedrooms to hold them while they were sleeping, and I cried because they are so beautiful and amazing. Then I went to bed and watched Greg for a litlle and cried for the same reason.
How do you feel about the last person that posted this survey?
I like her
Last person you blocked on MySpace?
I don't even know how to do that
Do you have a friend you can tell stuff to and your sure they won't tell anyone?
yes, Cassie...
Who did you hangout with last night?
Aubrie, becasue it was her birthday... She's such a big girl...
How many hours did you sleep last night?
about ten
Have you ever cried while in the shower?
yeah... that's my favorite place to cry
Could you go a day without eating?
yes... But who wants too
Do you know anyone that smokes pot?
yeah
Do you smoke weed regularly?
Ahh, I kicked that habit when I decided to have babies
Is there someone you want to fight?
No, I'n not a big fighter
Do you believe in true love?
yes
When was the last time you were disappointed?
I don't know.... I'm sure it wasn't that long ago.
I bounce back pretty easily
Do you miss your past?
sometimes, I miss the freedom, but I wouldn't trade what I have now for anything
What are you doing today?
Going to my mom's, laundry, baking, dishes, cleaning the kids rooms, hopefully the living room, and cooking dinner.
Then I will goof off until bed time
Have you ever broken someone’s heart?
I heard that somewhere
What is the last thing you thought about?
money, Noah's school, Mylee's laugh, Erin and her kids. Paxton.. I think about a lot of things all at once... I'm very complexed
Honestly, has anyone ever seen you in your underwear?
yes
Honestly, if you could go back 5 months and change something would you?
5 months... There really isn't anything to change.... Maybe I would save some money
Do you regret ever letting someone go?
That's tough... i regret the way I handled letting Dan Vavro go. He was awesome and I was sucky... Now he doesn't like me.... I regret that...
Is there anyone who doesn't like you?
Yep... lots
Is there anybody you wish you could be with right now?
no... not really....
Do you know anyone in the military currently?
I do
Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?
oh yeah
What is the last thing you put into your mouth?
cherry turn over
Do you believe ex's can be friends?
yes, sometimes
Do you regret doing anything this past week?
no
Another night
Another day
Waking to the same old face
No regrets
Tomorrow's gone
My love for you
Still lingers on
Forever and Always
I'll want you near
My life is for you
Should be so clear
You won't need to want
Sower you
With all of my heart
God has blessed us
That much we know
Say you'll stay
Because I will never go!
That's one of the first poems I have written since Noah was born, so I am really rusty, but what can I say, I felt a little inspired. Hopefully it's not too awful...
Saturday, January 3, 2004 my good friend, Amy, and I went to Mardis Gras. A bar that was on Main Street. After having quite a few drinks, Jason Foster and some kid I went to school with, walked up the stairs. Feeling pretty good I ran up to Foster and hugged him, and the boy said, "What no hug for me?" It was the beginning of a very interesting relationship.
Under false identification, our first date was the next day. Thinking that this guy's name was Joe Toner, I told my mom and my friends, about the date I had with this pretty cute guy. After a lot of arguing, that his name was not Joe, I called and got his voice mail... His name was Greg. We went n our date and barely talked.... Well he barely talked, I never stopped.
When he went to drop me off, he started to talk a little more, so I invited him into our house. I mean hey, it was January, and rather chilly in the car. So we watched Eddie and the Cruisers and Greg sat on the complete opposite of the couch. Not thinking he was interested I told him he needed to leave so that I could go to bed. I walked him to the door and he turned around and gave me the most amazing kiss that literally knocked me off my feet. With a dumb grin on my face, I watched him walk to his car thinking, "I am going to spend the rest of my life with him." And went to bed.
Little did I know that I actually would. The next six months were a blurr of late nights, long days, and amazing and quick love. After three months we were planning a wedding and looking for a place to live. We went on trips, I introduced him to my family. It moved very fast. Thenc during one of my obsessive pregnancy testing, I got a positive result.
Heart pounding and mind whirling I called Greg into the bathroom where i handed him the plus sign on a peed stick. Disbelief and then a slow grin crossed his face. Not knowing how I yet felt, I punched him, and immediately ran outside.
The next nine months were.... emotional. Greg and I immediately moved into together and tried to be adults. Neither one of us actually knowing what it meant to live on our own. We soon realized that we barely knew eachother, and that we had completely different ideas of what living and parenting should be like, but we loved eachother. Things were hard, there was no questioning that. We struggled to stay together, to stat afloat.
And then he came. Beautiful Noah Francis Toner. The love of my life, and Greg knew it. Greg then spent the next two years competing with Noah for my attention and affection, and he always lost. We fought passionately. We loved even more. We broke up and made up too frequently. And little by little we got better at being responsible, better at being parents, and better at fighting.
So one day out of the blue, we decided to get married. Three months,and a wedding cancellation later, we tied the knot. The wedding was beautiful. Full of tears. Greg was the first to cry and it was as magical as every girl dreams of. The reception was fun and I couldn't keep my eyes, arms, and lips off of my husband. It was amazing.
Shortly after, we got pregnant again. Things were going well and we felt like we were on top of the world. Then Greg had a "meltdown" He wasn't sure that was life he wanted to live. I'm sure everyone feels that wat from time to time, but Greg took it to extremes. I thought our marriage was truly over. I figured out ways to take care of my family on my own, to provide the best life I could, while trying to understand how Greg could change his mind. Oddly enough I did understand. We sort of got shoved into this life, and its scarey to have to take care of so many lives. I understood more than he thought I did.
Then one day Greg remembered why he wanted that life. Why he wanted to be a dad and a husband. Though I was in disbelief, I owed it to him, to my children and to God, to at least try to work things out. After all I made a commitment. So Greg spent a month trying to prove himself to me and to Noah. I still wasn't being a fool, and didn't trust him completely. I wasn't sure that there was anything left of our marriage to save.
Then she came. Mylee Sharon Toner. Our angel. The minute she was born, she completed our family. Greg's been a changed man ever since, and though he still fights for my attention at times, I try hard to make him feel important too. Everyday I am thankful for all of the second chances we have gotten. All of the love we feel. Our beautiful children who have helped to keep us together, who have given us reason to change. I am thankful for an amazing husband who tries hard to keep us happy, and is always willing to change.
Today I can't keep my eyes off of him. I stare at him while he sleeps. eats. watches T.V. I think he's beautifully amazing. I have never felt the way I do about Greg. For the first time in a long time, I know we can make it. I know that God had a plan for us, and we work our asses off trying to follow that plan. He amazes me, in every way. I can't wait to grow old with him. To spoil our grand children.
Don't get me wrong, we have lots of fights, but we are really better now. Things aren't always easy, and we struggle to be nice. We are both too sarcastic, too emotional, and take things too personally. But there are no doubts that we have a lot of love. I'm glad I picked Greg, or God picked Greg for me. I am glad we got pregnant and married and pregnant again. I am glad that we have broken up, and made up, and hated and loved. I have no regrets about our relationship, because it is amazing. Our love is amazing. It might not be romantic enough for a great love story, but its ours.
I know I talk a lot about Noah, I guess it's because I have known him longer, but I want to take a minute to talk about how much i enjoy Mylee too. Because I do, I love her so much! I do have to admit that I was never a big baby person. I am only interested in them for about ten minutes and then I want to move on! I think toddlers and preschoolers are way more fun. Then when they are about six, I don't like them anymore. Now there are exceptions to this rule. Obviously the kids on my life that I already love are still loved when they turn six, but for the most part I find that I have less patience, maybe because I think they should start acting their age.
Now that I have fully described just how messed up my mentality is, I want to talk a bit about my beautiful little girl. Mylee Sharon Toner. Named after the most amazing person I know in my life... My mother. Mylee is quiet, but don't be fooled, because she is just as weird as, well, me. She loves to eat and is always pushing herself to do new things. Like standing up in the middle of the floor at eight months. Or trying to walk. She has the weirdest sense of humor I have ever sen on a baby. She laughs at me when I yell at her, and laughs when the wind blows in her face. Every morning I go into her room, peaking around the door, to find her standing in her crib, laughing and bouncing. I pick her up and we hug for a good five minutes, or until she pinches me.
She's tiny, as far as average size goes. Still wearing mostly 3-6 months clothes, but has the biggest Italian thighs I have ever seen. We spend the bulk of our day singing and dancing, or sometimes I hold her really close to my chest and roll around on the floor. She thinks that is hilarious!
When she was born, she wasn't a big cuddler. Since then I have done everything in my power to make that untrue. I hold her close and hug and kiss her every single chance I get. And every time it is so magical and amazing that I close my eyes, pinch a tear off, and thank God for the chance of being a mommy; for giving to beautiful healthy children; to give me a great husband to share in parenthood; and then I make sure that I am thankful for that moment. And no matter what I am doing I stop and take the time to just relish in cuddling her. I hold her and kiss her, and love her, for as long as she will let me. If we are getting into the car at walmart, if we are standing in the diaper isle. No matter where we are.
I love to kiss her feet, even though they almost always stink like sweat, and she wraps her toes around my nose? Her smile... Oh It's the best one I have seen yet! She melts my soul everytime she does it. When she laughs really hard it's completely unflattering and unlady like, but it always makes me laugh!
So even though I do use Noah as an example way more often than I do Mylee, it's not because I have favorites. I love my kids both. In very different ways, but still more than I could have ever imagined loving anything. The decision to have Mylee was one of the best ones I have ever made. She completed our family, and in a lot of ways saved it from disaster. She's a miracle, and when she was picked for our family by God's amazing hands, he blessed us with an angel. I truely do "have angel" The next few paragraphs is a song that I have dedicated o Mylee. I sing it everyday to her, and definetely believe in everything it says. She really is our angel!
Angel... by Jack Johnson
"I have an angel. She doesn't wear any wings. She wears a heart that could melt my own, she wears a smile that could make me want to sing. She gives me presents, with her presence alone. She gives me everything I could wish for, she gives me kisses on the lips just for coming home. She could make angels. I've seen it with my own eyes. But you got to be careful when you got good love, because angels will just keep on multiplying. But your so busy changing the world, just one look and you could change all of mine. We share the same soul!"
I love my baby girl so much!
So Tired! I feel like I haven't slept in about a thousand years. Every night I go to bed exhausted, and think that I am going to get a great nights sleep, then my legs start to hurt, my hips feel out of place, then a million thoughts begin to whirl in my head. How are we going to survive, as far as money goes. I mean honestly, I don't know very many people who are living the way they used to, with all of the prices rising. I worry that in a few years we won't be able to eat. I even lay awake thinking about how someday Noah isn't going to want to cuddle me someday, or he's going to be on his own in the world, and will he make the right decisions; will he follow the life God planned out for him, will he try drugs, or worse yet will he be a drug addict. Will he wait a reasonable time before haing sex, will he be a teen parent. Will Mylee have self respect, and love herself enough to be a leader. Will she not care about what the is cool. I wonder if they will stay true to themselves, if they will confide in me. And even worse, what can I do to assure that my children are the best people they can be.
I worry about Austin, and Sebastian. Cage and Serenity. I worry about my mother and her health, about how I am going to survive when someday she is taken away from me in this life. Then I worry about having the health issues she suffers from, and giving it to my children. I worry if I am letting the people in my life know that I love them enough! Am I being a good enough person. Will I get into heaven. Is the end of the world coming, Am I a good enough christian, who should I call tomorrow to touch base with them. Why am I letting some of my friendships fizzle. How am I going to get my house clean so if my grandmother in law stops by I don't have to listen to her ridicule? How do I make Greg feel better about his mother having a baby? Does Greg really know how much I love him. Am I a good wife, friend, mother? I should be a better sister. Should I get a job? How can I work and take care of my kids. Is it fair to them. Should I go back to school. Noah needs jeans and Mylee doesn't have any fall clothes the right size. What am I going to do about Christmas.
And the list goes on.... I have always been a worrier, but lately it seems to be taking over my life. I can't sleep and when I do I have nightmares
. Don't get me wrong I also spend alot of my time giving thanks for the amazing people and things in my life. I pray and try to give my problems to God. I just wanted to complain, and now that I have... I feel a little better. Just a little, but better! Thank you!
So I haven't been doing so well on my slim fast plan, however I still seem to be losing weight. Not a ton, but still losing none the less. I started a new exercise program called.. Thirty two days of loven'.
I hear that concemating burns 1,000 calories everytime. So if I added that to slim fast plan, wowzer.
Not only am I losing a little weight, but I also feel better about myself. I feel more attractive, I sleep a little better. (not much) I have something beside going to sleep to look forward to, and my husband is happier which in return, makes our lives more enjoyable! And I have to say, I feel closer and more connected to Greg. I don't seem to be as stressed out, and the more that I actually do it, the more I enjoy it. I used to think about it and then think, I am way too tired, but now then I think about it I go for it!
I just thought that I would share, and maybe you guys would like to try it. Who knew a simple act could be the cause of some many wonderful feelings! Hope every husband is feeling as lucky as mine is about to! :)
