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I find myself not knowing what to expect from my children. I want them to be children to have fun, and at the same time I want them to act properly and behave. So where is the boundaries. I find that there are a lot of people out there in the world who yell at the kids all of the time. And then say things like, 'He just never listens" Maybe there are too many rules! So he's running around in circles or dumping sand in his hair.. Kids have to have fun. They can't have so many rules. Put yourself in their positions. If you couldn't do anything you wanted ever, wouldn't you break some rules too.
But then there is the flip side. Where parents just let their kids do whatever they want, because it's easier than yelling or getting up to deal with it.
Parenting is by far the most difficult job there is. You never know what's right and wrong. You don't get to see the finished product until it is too late to do anything about it. The only thing you can do is your best, listen to advice, apply it, and remeber that there is ALWAYS room for improvement. There is no such thing as the perfect parent. and just because you are doning something wrong doesn't make you a bad parnt, as long as you are willing to correct and learn. If you think your kid is brat chances are everyone else does too. And they probablty have for awhile.
The most important thing is making sure they know that you love them, that you will protect them, and always back them up. Cherish them, they shouldn't be a burden, they were a gift! Have fun with them. Never be too grown up to have a good time! Sometimes Noah and I shove pillows up our shirts and run into each other, like sumo wrestlers. Or the other day we all got on a crib mattress and slid down the stairs. We dance silly, even in the grocery store, and no matter what we are doing I take the time to hug him, if that's what he wants. Now I know that not every body is as weird as I am, but I take the time to actually hang out with my kids, everyday. And by all means I am not perfect. I neglect my house work. I let Noah watch way too much t.v. Some days all we eat all day are potato chips and cereal. I let Noah where his snow boots to school with shorts, ( or his cowboy boots these days.) But I love him, and I nurture the person he is. I try hard not to push him to be anything but who he is, I will spend all day hugging him if i could, and listening to him laugh makes my heart melt. I take time out of each day to play with just Mylee so she know she is special too. My kids are spoiled, and I still carry Noah, because Its a way to sneak in some hugs. I guess I am trying to say, have fun, and love your kids. Be amazed in every way by them. Slide down the stairs, dance with your arms flapping, enjoy every moment!
So Miss Mylee... What can I say? She was born on Dec. 10, 2007, so she is fairly new, however, the minute she was born I felt connected, which I can't honestly say for Noah. I felt like our souls have been connected for millions of past lives! I recognized her immediately. From day one she was an eater! A half an hour after birth she ate two ounces of formula, and never slowed down! She was always clam and relaxed. At first she didn't really like to be held, and just after three weeks she started sleeping through the night!
Now she crawls and cruises and just yesterday she stood up on her own, twice! She loves to sing and dance, and she always has a smile! I imagine that the more she's able to actually say, she will love to tell stories. She is smart, and silly. I can't imagine a dull moment together!
I love my little sweet face.
First let me just explain that all I have been thinking about lately is.... "Marital relations." Day and night. I seem to be obsessed with it, which is extremely odd, since a week ago I would do whatever it took to avoid it! So last night my mother took the kids over night. (The first time since we had kids, other than our wedding night.) We walked down town, and then to the Monroe. The night was gorgeous, and just being together without all of the noise and whining, was so calming and a little romantic feeling. A good friend called and asked if we wanted to go to the bar. Greg really did, so off we went... We get home around two o'clock, get in bed, and I 'm ready!!! But then I make the mistake of going to the bathroom. I get back and Greg is out cold. I tried everything to wake him, but it wasn't going to happen. I go to sleep and think well maybe tomorrow... First thing I do when I open my eyes is wake Greg up to be "active" with me, and it's great. Then Greg's dad calls and says he wants to take Noah for a little bit, and buy him cowboy boots, (which is another story of its own) and to take him to see some horses. So off we go to pick the kids up from my mom's and take Noah to his dad's. We drop Noah off and go home. We put the baby to sleep and take part in some "romance." Dead smack in the middle, Big Greg, (Greg's Dad) and Noah come walking through the door and up the stairs where we were consamating our marriage. That's right we were totally busted. Twenty six years old, married with two kids, and Greg's dad busts us... Does it get more hilarious than that? I don't think so! LOVE IT!!!!!
So, I always said that I would always rather have a messy than give up time with my children. When Noah was born I found it so important that he grew up knowing how much I loved him. I never wanted him to question that fact. I'd spend countless hours playing and cuddling and watching movies, I totally forgot, how important it is to make sure they know that being disgusting isn't right either. I am now very aware of messes. I no longer wish to live that way. Don't get me wrong I still want them to know how much I love them, and I still don't want to have any regrets about spending time with them, but I don't want them to be embarrassed to have friends over or be smelly. Or anything like that, and though I have improved a great bit, as far as keeping things clean, I'm still lazy... So what's the answer. I always think about getting up a couple hours earlier than the kids to get everything caught up, but I don't sleep well at night, so that seem to be out of the question. i would like to be able to stay up a little bit after they go to bed, but because I don't sleep I'm too tired... How do I keep my house clean without compromising my time spent with my kids? It's a question I would love to have some answers on. SO if any of you out there have any suggestions, please do NOT hesitate to let me know! Or at least some advice on ho to sleep better so I can wake up early, or anything! Thanks!!!
Noah is such a cool little boy. He's got so much personality , and heart. He loves to make people laugh and will do whatever it takes to get a giggle. He's got a smile that could light up the world, and he never seizes to amaze me. We spend most of out days laughing and being silly. He helps me cook and clean, and I love to do little things to make him happy. Like taking the car through the car wash, ever once in awhile. He thinks thats so cool...
Some days we eat popsicles all day, just because we can. Or potato chips for breakfast. I let him wear his snow boots if that's what he wants, because no matter how silly he might look, that's him and that's the way I love him!
Every morning he wakes up and comes in my bed, lifts up the blankets, and snuggles in beside me. We lay in my bed and just hold each other for at least a half of an hour. Then we go into Mylee's room and he says, "Good morning Mylee, my little sweet face!" Sometimes he gets in her crib and they play together, sometimes we go downstairs.
Every moment we spend together I fall more in love with him. I go to bed every night thanking God for giving me such a wonderful little boy. Being a parent truly is amazing, especially when the time is taken to really enjoy children. There's so much to enjoy and learn from them.
Every day I learn something new from Noah. Sometimes its how to be patient, sometimes its how to have fun, or smile on a horrible day. He teaches me how to laugh, and especially he has taught me all I ever needed to know about how to love. He really is th coolest ever!
Recently a few old friends have rekindled our friendships. It's so nice to have theses people a part of my life at all, let alone a bigger part these days. My best friend, as everyone knows, is my mother, and some day she won't be here.. Regardless... That's just the natural order of things, and though I hope I have the kind of relationship with my kids as my mom has with me, I am still going to need friends, other than them. It's nice to know, that I do!
I know I talk about it all the time, but i have to say it once again, I have been blessed in so many different ways. Don't get me wrong, I have struggled and seen my share of horrible things, but always have been blessed. The only difference is before I didn't see it. My life is not even close to perfect my all means, but somehow, the inperfections don't really seem to matter as much. Don't misunderstand me, I freak out and over react. I act like a complete moron, and vision my whole world coming to an end, but then I regroup and realize that there are so many more important things. It's hard to remember how great your life really is at times.. Just like a great marriage, its something that needs to be really worked at!
I'm lucky to have a great family, great friends, and new friends.... To Melody and Erin, I'm glad you guys decided you wanted to be a part of my life, and me a part of yours! I think you are wonderful and look forward to tons of fun!
There are so many things I could say today. I have lots I would like to vent, but its at the expense of others feelings... I could discuss my children and their ailments, but that's boring... I don't really have anything worth discussing at all.... So until I have something to discuss that isn't going to cause drama, or bore anyone... I'm here to say, I am alive, just not interesting....
Maybe tomorrow!
